out train a bad diet?!?

Can I Out Train A Bad Diet?

Exercise is a beautiful thing! Whether you agree with that statement or not, the body you are living in was designed for you to move it, and getting moving in the form of exercise is a strong recommendation that is given to people who want to lose weight, “tone up” and feel better.

As a Registered Holistic Nutritionist and Personal Trainer I see clients two to three times a week to do just that.  I work with them to increase their heart rate, challenge their muscles and get sweating. Some also exercise outside of scheduled workouts by doing cardio as well. People are so willing to push their bodies through their work outs week in and week out. This can result in some positive changes such as the scale changing a bit, feeling stronger, increased energy, and maybe even clothes fitting a bit better. But for so many, the scale doesn’t really reflect all the hard work they put in. The big question is why?

The secret to successful weight loss boils down to what you choose to put in your mouth. Yes, sadly this is very true. You cannot out train bad nutrition! You can choose to workout in challenging ways, even daily, but if you are not willing to consistently change your food to healthy options your body and weight likely won’t change much. It’s not even always about eating less, but more about eating less of the “bad” stuff, and focusing more on the “good” stuff.

Eating healthy, nutritious whole foods, likely the way your Oma/Gramma/Nonna/Nana made them, is THE best way for you to get control of your body and steer it in a vibrant direction. 70% of your weight loss goal lies in what you choose to put in your mouth. Exercise is vital for health, but only makes up 30% of the success you are striving for.

People are very willing to pound on their bodies regularly with exercise, yet their connection to the poor foods and drinks that are part of their diet plan and lifestyle is what is keeping them from achieving their goals.  We have to recognize that when putting top grade fuel and oil in your car, or feeding your pet premium foods, we are fueling them to perform well and last. Why aren’t you doing the same for yourself?

This includes white flour based foods, processed packaged foods, pop, sugary drinks, alcohol, restaurant foods, fatty cuts of meat, fat free dairy….. the list goes on and on…. What fruit do you eat? Do you eat enough good fats? Is your protein in proper portion sizes? Does your plate consist of at least 50% vegetables two meals a day? Do you drink enough water, or are you fueled on coffee, energy drinks and alcohol? All these things factor into your weight loss goals.

So, please, keep moving and challenging your body! It has an impact! But for real impact, clean up your eating! You’re an adult, which means no one can force feed you cheap quality fuel if you don’t agree to put it in your mouth. Is the change hard? Likely for some. In time however, your body will respond, and along with that strength you are gaining from your workouts, you will feel even better. Choose mostly the foods that are truly fit for your fork!

 

Shirley VanEgmond RHN, PTS

Longer is better??

The longer the workout the better, right???

10 minute warm-up on the treadmill, 45 minutes lifting weights, another 45 minutes to an hour of moderate intensity cardio, followed by a cooldown stretch. For many decades, this regime was considered the gold standard for everyday gym goers. 

Is there anything wrong with this? 

No. If you have that kind of time to invest daily on your training than go for it. But let’s be realistic here for a minute… it’s 2019, who has 2 free hours a day to spend working out??

In todays life where we always have places to be and people to see, exercisers need a quick & effective exercise alternative. Something where you’re in & out of the gym as quickly as possible and still see results. Now I know what you’re thinking, I have to focus solely on strength and sacrifice cardio (or vice versa) because im on a time crunch, right?

Wrong.

Shorter duration workouts (30-45 minutes) are becoming increasingly popular because of their ability to produce similar or even superior results to longer training 

sessions. In fact, short, intermittent bouts of exercise lasting only a few minutes can produce similar physiological results on your body as an hour of cardio! (Don’t believe me? Look up One Minute Workout by Martin Gibala, PhD McMaster University). 

Aside from the time saving benefit, shorter workouts allow you to train harder, burning more calories in the process. This not only occurs during your session, but afterwards as well. Your body continues to work and expend energy well after your workout is complete in an effort to return to its normal resting state. The result… your body becomes a calorie burning machine!

Furthermore, increases in strength, cardiorespiratory fitness, flexibility, and even balance, can all improve with regular shorter duration workouts.

Looking closer at the effects of exercise on hormonal release also provides good insight in favour of a 30 minute workout. Exercise itself is a stressor, much like writing an important test or running late to work. One of the major hormones released in times of stress is cortisol. The longer the stress is present in the body, the more cortisol released into the bloodstream. Combine your 2 hour workout with all the other everyday sources of stress and you can see how easy it becomes to accumulate cortisol.

 What’s the big deal? 

Well, chronically elevated cortisol is linked to harmful effects on the cardiovascular system (heart & blood vessels), weight management, suppressed immune function, and several other bodily functions. 

It wasn’t until I began training high level athletes a few years ago that I bought into this principle of less is more. 30 minute workouts are a great way to provide a training stimulus without risking overtraining (with strong programming of course). Furthermore, in my experience, it’s much easier to maintain your focus on your workout, compared to all the between sets selfies taken during your 2 hour “pump.”

Stop into LiV Personal Training Studio where we specialize in 30 minute workouts and chat with one of our knowledgeable and experienced trainers. If you’re not completely sold on the idea, who knows, maybe Rob will put you through a quick demo!

What’s SOOO bad about Carbs?! part 2

Welcome back! Hoping that last week’s article shed a bit of light that grains don’t have to be avoided. That they actually can be your friend! If you missed that article, please go back and check it out.

This week the topic is vegetables. And yes, your mother was quite right when she insisted on you eating your veggies! Fresh vegetables are naturally low in fat, salt and sugar, making them an excellent food choice. Because we can eat most of them raw, they likely should be referred to as one of nature’s “fast foods”! Vegetables provide energy, vitamins, minerals and fibre for starters. Add to that the additional benefits from phytonutrients.

Vegetables are often broken down into two categories, non-starchy and starchy vegetables. The non-starchy ones tend to have a higher water content, are lower in energy, rich in vitamins and minerals, and are easier to eat raw.

Starchy vegetables contain higher levels of carbohydrate so provide more energy. These are usually roots and tubers such as potatoes, sweet potatoes, yams, most squash, and sweet corn. Legumes are technically a vegetable as well, and are also considered starchy because of their higher levels of carbohydrate. These however, are quite high in protein, so are ideal in meatless meals.

Vegetables also contain phytonutrients. Ones that are commonly spoken about is beta-carotene which are found in carrots, pumpkin and leafy green vegetables; lycopene found in tomatoes; and flavonoids found in beans, onions, and again, leafy green vegetables and tomatoes.

Vitamins and minerals are also found in vegetables.  Vitamin A stimulates new cell growth, keeps cells healthy and can help vision in dim light, and can be found in pumpkin, carrots, spinach and broccoli. Vitamin B releases energy from food, and is good for the nervous system and can be found in green vegetables. Vitamin C is used in tissue repair, helps the immune system by fighting against infection and supports health overall health. It also helps the absorption of iron from foods. Vitamin K helps blood clot, and can be found in turnips, broccoli, lettuce, cabbage, asparagus, peas and green beans. Calcium is necessary for healthy teeth, bones, hair and nails, and can be found in spinach, parsley, broccoli, celery, leeks, spring onions, cabbage and carrots. Potassium controls muscles and nerves and may be important in preventing high blood pressure. All vegetables contain potassium. Iron is essential for red blood cells so that oxygen can be carried around the body. Spinach, parsley, leeks, broccoli and mushrooms are good sources of iron.

I believe that non-starchy vegetables are unlimited. I have prepared for many natural bodybuilding shows over the past 13 years, and the best advice I received was non-starchy veg is your best friend. Not only can you load up on them, they contain a lot of water, and they contain fibre, which supports slower digestion and good bowel function.

One thing to consider with starchy vegetables is, just like the grains we spoke about last week, is the quality and quantity. Regarding quality, let’s look at potatoes. A potato isn’t bad for you, but French fries, tater tots, poutine, etc. aren’t good choices. The same goes for sweet potatoes. Better as a potato than fries. What you put on matters as well. Sour cream, gravy, ketchup and salt aren’t keeping you on your path to health and wellness. Portion size matters too! For most women, a ½ cup serving of any starchy vegetable is enough. For men I recommend 1 cup. Too much starch for a person who doesn’t move enough is too much! In saying that, I recommend that you aim to make half your plate non-starchy vegetables, choosing a range of different colours. Then add the proper portion size of starchy veg to it.  If you are having bread, or another grain alongside, cut it down more. Your starchy portion should be no more than a ¼ of your plate.

There you have it. Fill your plate with a variety of varieties, colours and textures! There is so much goodness in vegetables, your body will be unbelievably thankful for the abundance you provide it with!

Whats SOOOO bad about CARBS?! part 1 of 3

I don’t think there is another dreaded food word these days! I get asked regularly, “Can I eat carbs?”  And my answer is always YES!! So why are they getting such a bad wrap, and why are people so afraid of them?

First of all, you have to remember that carbohydrates are ALL grown from the ground. That means that this macronutrient group includes all edible plant life. Grains, fruits and vegetables are ALL part of a healthy diet. It’s the amount you choose to eat based on the diet you prefer to follow that results in how much or little you should consume.

Today I want to focus just on grains, which are known as a starchy carbohydrate.

So many people are poo-pooing them, thinking they are the reason for weight gain. And this may be true, based on what form of grain you are eating, how much grain you are eating, and how much or little you exercise or move your body. Whole grain options are not bad for us. They contain a lot of goodness, including B vitamins (thiamin, riboflavin, niacin and folate), minerals (iron, magnesium and selenium) and fibre.

When you choose refined grains however, the fibre has been stripped from the grain so it will digest a lot faster, elevating your blood sugar level. Think along the lines of white bread, hamburger and hot dog buns, ethnic breads, pitas, wraps, and baked goods (as delicious as they are, they often are full of sugar for sweetness even increasing that blood sugar level more). The more processed a grain is the quicker it becomes sugar in our body…..and that my dear is where the problem lies….and will likely result in that unwanted weight gain.

When we look at whole grain, such as oats, quinoa, brown basmati rice, etc., we are consuming them in their natural form. We have to chew it, it has to digest, it still has its good nutrients and fibre, so provides benefits to your body including better bowel function and feeling full longer. Whole grains won’t harm us when eaten in the proper portion size, which I generally recommend ½ cup serving for most females and 1 cup for most males.

Whole grains will provide us with energy to do the activities in our day if we have them 1-2 times a day, based on personal activity level. So, here is how the average day flows for adults. We wake up, go to the washroom (50% sit down for this), go to the kitchen to sit and have coffee, eat breakfast or watch the news. We then either drive or take transit to work…sitting. We take our seat at our desk, have lunch sitting, sit at our desk for the remainder of the day, sit on our way home, sit to relax for a bit, sit to eat dinner, sit and watch tv, read or fiddle with our computer. WOW! That’s a lot of sitting, aka, not moving. When you have that little physical activity in your day and are consuming processed grains at most of your meals you can see how it results in weight gain. If you have a manual job and are walking, lifting and unloading all day long you can consume more. If you choose physical exercise most days in challenging ways, yes, you can consume more.

Think about your day. Consider your activity level. Ask yourself if your grain options are adequate to your lifestyle. What positive changes can you make to improve upon that? There is no perfect answer. You need to look and listen to your body. We are all different and have varying needs. Just remember, grain isn’t the enemy. It’s provided for us naturally. It’s up to you how you choose to use it.

Good Morning Sunshine!

Are you one of “those” people that just love getting up bright and early? Or at the very least, can function well as soon as they open their eyes?  Or are you rather the one who hits snooze 2 or 3 times, drags themselves out of bed with their eyes still closed, already thinking about how they can’t wait for the day to be over?

Not everyone is a morning person. Many people would love nothing more than 10 extra minutes of pillow time, and to smack every perky and chatty morning person they run into! Did you know that according to a recent study, 57% of people hit that snooze button? With over half of the population delaying the start of a fresh new day, it made me wonder what could be done to work on improving that?

Some people are so busy in their life that they know as soon as their feet hit the ground that they will be running all day, so why not stay in bed for a few extra minutes, right? To help be prepared for your early morning start, here are a few tips that might help give you five minutes of breathing space to sit and well, smell your coffee, or tea, before inhaling it on the way out the door.

Before all else, I start my day with a water. I have a bottle at my bedside that I take 10-12 gulps from as soon as my feet touch the floor. Starting to re-hydrate immediately sets me on the right foot right away!

  1. If you are a morning shower person, have everything ready for yourself. Fresh towel, face wash, toner, toothbrush. Do it all in the shower rather than deal with different sinks and taps. Look into a microfibre towel to wrap your hair in, as these soak up water faster, so your hair will dry quicker.
  2. Set your clothes out the night before. Even though my attire tends to be workout gear every day, I always have it set out, ready to go. Right down to the undergarments. Less thinking I have to do and last minutes digging in the dark the better! In fact, I set them down within reach of the toilet so I can get right to getting dressed.
  3. Set your breakfast up the night before. Whether that’s having your smoothie ingredients ready to go, or your coffeemaker pre-set and travel mug beside it, having your first foods and drinks pre-planned, even partially, will save you a minute or two. Have the blender ready with protein powder on the counter and banana beside it. Pre-boil some eggs so you can grab them out of the fridge. Make your oats the night before so you only have to re-heat them. All simple steps to making your morning easier.
  4. Pack your lunch and snacks the night before. I am a big believer in being prepared to succeed, so I do all my veggie prep and cooking on the weekend. I actually pack my lunches for two days in a row so I can save those extra minutes as well! So easy to do, such little time when everything is already out of the fridge. If re-heating foods in the microwave, make sure you pack in glass containers. Much safer for you than plastic.

So, there you go! A few tips to help you make your early morning time a bit easier. It’s up to you how you choose to spend the extra few minutes you have created. Hitting that snooze might still feel like the answer for you. Maybe it gives you time to set an intention for how you want your day to go. Or maybe meditate, journal your gratitude, watch the sun rise, do some stretching….or just sit and slowly inhale the aroma of your coffee or tea, and enjoy it down to the last drop.

Night Time Munchies

Let’s be real, we all have these moments of weakness. Whether its boredom, emotions or actual hunger, there are always going to be some nights where we just want to eat!

I totally understand the dilemma you are in! We’ve been told not to eat too much before going to bed. That ideally, dinner should be your last meal of the day, and not to snack after 7pm. But sometimes we are feeling a bit hungry as the clock ticks down the time to bedtime. Going to bed hungry might result in waking up during the night and not being able to get back to sleep. Eating something too heavy or too much might result in unsettled sleep as your body is digesting while it should be resting.

First of all, let’s look at the fact that it might not be food that your body is longing for. You might simply just be dehydrated.   Try first to have a glass of water or a cup of herbal tea. Wait about 20 minutes to see if that accomplished what your body was asking for. Another tried and true tip is to go brush your teeth. Most of us don’t like to eat or drink anything with freshly brushed and flossed teeth!

If neither of those tips cure you, try to look for something small and on the lighter side:

  • A piece of fruit with either a handful of nuts and seeds, or a thumb-size of cheese
  • A handful of nuts and seeds on their own, or simply a scoop of natural nut butter
  • ½ cup of plain yogurt or cottage cheese with added fruit
  • Some cut up raw veggies with hummus, tzatziki or mashed avocado
  • 1-2 tuna boats on a romaine lettuce leaf, or tuna salad with raw veggies
  • 5-10 shrimp dipped in seafood sauce
  • 1-2 boiled eggs
  • Small portion of crackers (Ryvita, Mary’s, etc.) with natural nut butter

Though not necessarily all perfect options, they all contain some protein, carbohydrate and/or good fat. The key is to keep your portion on the smaller side. Don’t take the bag of nuts or box of crackers out to your tv….this leads to mindless eating. Rather, put some on a small plate. It allows you better control.

What I strongly recommend is that you don’t go for anything with minimal nutritional value, or too heavy or large. This would include items such as:

  • Ice cream, frozen yogurt, chocolate, candy, etc.
  • Chips
  • Fried foods such as fries, onion rings, deep fried pickles, chicken wings/fingers, etc.
  • Burgers or hot dogs, pizza, subs, pitas
  • Nachos with salsa, sour cream, cheese and/or meat sauce
  • A larger plate of cheese and crackers

All of these are either loaded with sugar, bad fats or include lots of refined grains (white flour). All of this in your gut while you are trying to sleep is likely only going to stress out your digestion while it should be resting. It is key to give your body a break from foods during the night when possible. And while all this busy digestion is going on inside of you as you are sleeping, there is a really good chance your sleep will be disturbed as well. And not much feels worse than waking from a troubled night of sleep.

So, keep your snacks small, healthy and goal focused!

circle of friends

I’m lounging around on this Sunday morning, after a wonderful potluck dinner evening with friends. It was so amazing to hang out with everyone as being grounded in relationships with these wonderful people is such a blessing! The really cool thing is everyone who was here is connected to Jer and I, but not with each other. So, coming to our event brought a variety of people together that don’t really know each other too well. Yet, we all sat together to share a meal, glass of wine and some amazing conversations, discussion and laughter….and grow.

The relationships you build around you should feel like a blessing to you, relax and enlighten you. You likely have your core group that is you “go to” crew. You might share your deepest secrets or laugh until you cry with them. But there likely is your co-workers, your church or association friends, the single mom down the road, or the elderly gentleman who takes the same bus you do every day. All of these people need companionship just as you do. It doesn’t mean you are besties with all of them, but you can still be friends.

Imagine how boring the world would be if we only intertwined with those who are so much like us that we don’t even recognize what makes us unique anymore. It happens so easily. Growing up my siblings and I went to a school that was started and supported through our Dutch church community. It made sense, as all our parents’ families immigrated from the Netherlands after WW2. They felt a need to establish a set of values and education for their children. I totally get it. However, this meant that I went to school with the same kids from grade 1-12. There was barely a new kid in sight. And even more rare was a child of a different skin colour or ethnicity. We were encircled with so much of the sameness that at times it could feel limiting. A number of kids were bussed in from the country and didn’t really know life past their home, bus, church and school. One gal told me the day after her grade 12 graduation was so scary because she never knew life outside that realm. Her whole identity was wrapped up in it. At least I got to take the city bus and live in a neighbourhood where I connected with other kids. It gave me a small amount diversity, taught me that just because we were raised differently and had varying views, that we could still be friends and not need to dislike each other because we had differences.

I encourage you to do a quick review of who you connect with. Is there security within it? Great! We need our tribe, but do your friends and acquaintances hold mostly the same views you do? Maybe its time to go past that and stretch your boundaries a bit. Start looking where you can connect with a few new people who were raised differently, believe differently or have a different lifestyle than you do. Try and find a friend that challenges you. Makes you think outside the box. Sign yourself up to an art class, a running group or a book club where you don’t know anyone. Push your boundaries a bit and allow yourself to feel uncomfortable and challenged. Talk with people. Ask them questions, and really listen to their answers. Be willing to learn and be a bit vulnerable, because we learn so much from the people we grow with.

 

the rafiki moment

Yes! The Lion King Live is coming to a theatre near you in 8 months! I can’t wait! I’ve watched it on VHS with my niece and nephew, DVD with my kids, and even took my mom and daughter to see the live musical in Toronto….. I LOVE the Lion King! Just hearing and seeing it being announced on a news entertainment segment yesterday got my daughter and I excitedly talking about it.

Who’s your favourite character? So many will say Simba, Nala, Timon or Pumba. And trust me, they are all great. But for me, it’s Rafiki, the “creepy little monkey”, as Simba referred to him. He speaks so much truth to Simba. It’s awesome! As many of you know, he brings Simba on an emotional reality check back in time, a type of vision quest. He helps Simba see, that even though, as a young cub, some choices and comments were made that changed his life dramatically, he still has a journey and path to follow that can lead him to his role of leadership and family.

This was the best part! It always makes me think back over my life. Yes, I have made some awesome decisions! And in many ways my life is truly blessed. But, I have also made some questionable ones. They might not have been life altering, but they definitely had put me in a mindset of doubting who I am and what I can become. Do I deserve success? Am I good enough? Can I make my way back to the path where I can make a difference in other peoples’ lives? How about you? Are you destined to stay on your current path because any goodness you had is all part of your past?

Here is where Rafiki smacks Simba on the head with his Bakora staff, aka, his walking stick. Simba is obviously not impressed. Who would be? But Rafiki says that it doesn’t matter….because now that a few moments have passed, it’s all in the past. I love this part. I call it, “The Rafiki moment.” The past can hurt, but you can either run from it, or learn from it.

Facing our past can be difficult. Running from it often seems the easier thing to do. Making the decision to face it, work through it, grow from it and move forward can be heart wrenching, but so rewarding on the other side. I believe we were meant for greatness. Every one of us. I’m still learning this part too.

We weren’t meant to be small and just exist. We all had dreams, talents and passions when we were young. The great thing about your life is you get to be in charge of it. Look back a bit. Connect with that person you remember that longed for something. Go find it. Dig it up, work hard on it, and celebrate it! Be the person that the good Lord designed you and gifted you to be. Be completely you because you can!

what about bread?!

Bread….so good….but not always so good for you.  There are a few exceptions to this of course, such as sprouted grain breads, organic breads and non-grain bread options.

Sprouted grain breads are made from pretty much any grain, though the majority of them are sourced from wheat.  Sprouted grains have some health benefits. They are at their best when catching the sprouts during the germination process. This process breaks down some of the starch, which makes them easier to digest and it’s percentage of absorbable nutrients higher than regular grains. This occurs because the germination process breaks down phytate, a form of phytic acid that can decrease absorption of vitamins and minerals within the body. This results in more available nutrients than mature grains, including folate, iron, vitamin C, zinc, magnesium, and protein.

Organic breads are also made from a variety of grains. Regardless of the grain, if it’s made with white flour it’s going to cause a quick spike and drop in blood sugar. That is the reality, even if it’s organic. White breads contain little to no fibre to help slow down this reaction within you. When consuming organic, keep in mind the bread doesn’t contain the preservatives found in conventional bread, so it will not have the same shelf life. Organic breads tend to be a “bake or purchase” item that is consumed within the following 2 days, or it likely is already going stale. Organic grains are commonly more beneficial because of what they don’t have…fewer irrigation practices and no synthetic fertilizers and pesticides being used to support a bigger crop. A higher amount of significant nutrients, minerals, vitamins, and antioxidants can be found in organic grains as well. Organic farming not only is beneficial in quality and safety of grain and grain-based products, but it also has a great impact on our environment.

Non-grain options, such as coconut, almond, farro and arrowroot flours all are gluten free. It can be a bit tricky working with these flours, as gluten is what gives flour its nice texture. I personally prefer to use these flours more for pancakes, muffins or little buns rather than breads. Gluten is the protein that sort of holds the bread together that is found in wheat, rye and barley. There are many people who need to stay away from gluten, as it can cause reactions ranging from digestive issues, constipation/diarrhea to headaches, joint aches/pains, fatigue, depression and anxiety. Some state it is the herbicide glyphosate, found in Roundup, which is made by Monsanto. This product is sprayed on grain crops, and might be triggering the issues people experience. Whatever might be causing it, if it doesn’t agree with you, be wise and don’t consume it.

Bread is an easy “go-to” for so many people around the world. Our Canada Food Guide recommends that adults consume 6-8 servings/day. To me that is way too much. I’m not going to argue whether bread can contain nutrients that our body can benefit from or not. Grains are a carbohydrate, and a starchy one at that, and it provides us with energy. I believe we don’t move enough in our lifestyle to consume that much grain. Most of us can likely get enough grain carbs from 1-2 servings/day. Whether we like it or not, grain is better consumed in its natural form, as a grain. Not always the most convenient way to eat it, but once it is processed and combined with other ingredients to become bread, or other baked goodies for that matter, it has lost a lot of its goodness, as now it has become a processed food.

I’m not saying don’t eat grains. I am saying, eat them wisely. Learn to listen to your body and examine how it responds to these foods. You truly are the best judge of what works for you, and what doesn’t.

when things go wrong….. as they some times will…..

Have you ever had your whole day planned out and your “to do” list ready to tackle, and then something happens? Maybe your child is sick, your basement floods, your password to your website doesn’t work, or the watermain breaks at your studio location and you have a full afternoon of clients…. Hopefully it’s only one thing that messes up your day, and not a few, as listed above.

It’s happening to me right now. Not sick kids or a flooded basement, but my password apparently requires “authentication” (where’s my business partner when I need him?), and we have a watermain break at the studio. I was thinking I would get computer work done at home before heading into the studio and a packed afternoon/evening with clients, which I might need to now cancel. I was stopped. Dead in my tracks. What do you do when this happens to you? Does this rattle you with irritation, or do you just move right along to the next best thing to accomplish?

I believe when life gives you lemons you can either make lemonade and roll with it, add a twist with a shot of vodka and switch gears, or stomp on that lemon and completely crush it.

If you feel like crushing it, find a way to take a few moments to re-group. This might be a perfect time for a bit of yoga, meditation, or to ponder a few things to be grateful for, in spite of the speedbumps you’re dealing with. Are you a person who needs to get rid of your “Grrrr”? Maybe grab a quick workout and pound it out in a run or interval strength training. You’ll likely feel so much better after!

Adding the bit of vodka might look a bit like changing your outlook for the day. If what you are doing can wait until tomorrow, maybe call up a friend or your mom and head to the mall to do some retail therapy or grab lunch together.

Or, keep it simple and drink the lemonade. I just read this morning that to reduce our stress around situations, we can choose how to act, or react, to the issue. Let’s face it, there are things that are out of our control, but we don’t need to let the issue control us. When allowing it to do so we get into that “fight or flight” reaction that only drains our adrenals, energy, and total outlook for the moment.  Why give it that much power? You might not be control of your whole day, your focus just had to change a little due to circumstance.

When we choose to react, it tends to be quick and with frustration. Not much gets accomplished this way. When choosing to act we can still get things done. Maybe not exactly what you were planning, but your day isn’t ruined, it’s just different than you envisioned. You might even find a hidden blessing or two tucked into the change….and those blessings are the best because they are unexpected.